Sunday 9 December 2012

Love Your Child



One Norwegian Couple was recently sent to jail by the Government of their country for scolding their child. In India there were three cases respectively in Jaipur, Hyderabad and Jammu reported last week where a child was physically assaulted on petty reasons. In the Jammu incident an 8 year old girl was beaten with a rod just because of the fact that she was late to school. Now all these type of abrupt behavior shows that the persons taking such type of actions are either mentally disturbed or have become animals who in the name of nurturing a child can go to any extreme. This is not the first instance where a child was thrashed badly by the teacher or the elder, few years ago a boy was beaten to death by his father just because of the fact that he was not being able to perform better in the tennis match. It is really shameful in a country like India where every now and then we claim that children are the future of the country and is the path leaders of a developing India and on the other hand every day or the other we get to hear such type of incidents happening around us.
Now the big question that might arise in one’s mind is “So what is the solution then, should one stop scolding or beating their child even if they are doing wrong?” Well, the answer is, the parents or the teachers should at least scold their child without using harsh or abusive words but should not physically assault them. The mind of a child is fragile, innocent and is immature they cannot think rationally and decide what is right or what is wrong, it is we the parents, teachers and the elders who are always there to guide them and teach them, make them understand what are the good or the bad effects of doing a particular thing. Over and above the relationship between children and their parents should that be of friends and same goes for the teacher or the elders. Thrashing a child, verbally abusing them will only create fear in the mind of the child and this is quite dangerous for them because these type of actions creates a sense of insecurity in the mind of the child and it creates a distance between the child and the parents which is quite harmful. Hence, treat your children as one of your best friend hold their hands tightly and guide them towards the right path.
Well, this was the solution of one aspect of the problem, on the other hand most of the parents are a working couple with child and subsequently they are not able to give adequate amount of time to their child. After a long stress full day in their respective workplaces they are hardly able to spend quality time with their child and therefore the parents should take out ample amount of time from their working schedule and spend it with their children. All the views expressed here are solely my opinion different people might have different reason.